Introduction By: Remi Gonzalez
Image Given To Remi Gonzalez Ap 1984
(Started) March 25, 2008
This was not a legal investigation or police involvement. A volunteer act to answer for the forth time false accusations. I blame the Diocese of Buffalo for opening up this sealed case and encouraging my in-laws. A member of the Diocese of Buffalo, made it known to Deacon Ben M. in August 2006 they are trying to get rid of me.Why? I reported 2 priests in the 1980's that were abusing boys,one of these boys are very very good friends with my in-laws. As a matter of fact he is mentioned on my response.
My in-laws were" used "by the Diocese of Buffalo and it’s that simple.
On December 7, 2008 my wife and I, Remi Gonzalez volunteer with our attorney HoganWillig met with the Attorney Larry Vilardo for the Bishop. It was stated in the Bishops' letter to me on Jan. 2, 2008 that new revelations were revealed about in-laws. Nothing new was revealed that was not investigated in 1989, 94 & 2003
The only thing that was mentioned new, on December 7, 2007, was Sarah Webster stated that I, Remi Gonzalez took her to Darien Lake and had all the adults put in one mobile home trailer and the all the younger kids in the other trailer and then I, Remi Gonzalez when into the kids trailer and rape Sarah Webster.
I made it quite clear to the Diocese attorneys that I never took Sarah Webster to Darien Lake.That her mother brought Sarah when she was invited. Never did Barbara and I separate the kids from the adults, never.
The second thing that was mentioned was Paul Barr and all his lies. I told Mr. Viladro that Paul Barr was removed from youth ministry and gave him C M phone number to confirm why, Mr. Vilardo did end up speaking to C M and we will leave it at that, for now. I had to have Chris call the Attorney for the Diocese Mr. Vilardo, who did not call once witness or persons name that I submitted to him, not one on my behalf, wonder why!
One of many things that I submitted to the Diocese of Buffalo, was Tom M. position on all of this and his involvement in the 1989 allegations. He was told in 1989 to be silent after I was cleared, but on August 30, 2007 he broke is silence and made his public remarks known by sending an e-mail to my family and others.
Below Is The Data from our December 7, 2007 Meeting: The Diocese and Our Lawyer:
Subject: My In-Laws Website and Accusation: Meeting Was Held On Behalf Of My In-Laws
And The Attorneys of The Diocese of Buffalo: In-Laws Did Not Show Up.
Dec 7, 2007: Was Ask To Bring All My Data:
- Meeting 12:00 With Attorney John Licata from HoganWillig , Barbara G and Remi Gonzalez
- We will not discuss the Website in great detail, due to a possible civil suit.
- We will discuss the inconsistency of the Website in 1989/1994 and 2003
- They have all the facts and results of 1989 and now in 2007 can add, change, and even correct. (Website)
- Re: Sarah Webster: Nancy Porto: Laura Maroon: Theresa K, Paul Barr and Tom M, none of these peoples' stories were taken under oath, but wanted my wife Barbara and Remi Gonzalez to be sworn under oath. I agree only if my In-Laws went under oath.
Tom My In-Law :
seem to have kept a low key in public after his best friend (M.C.) revealed to us in 1989 when he heard what Tom was doing to my family and I. His friends' revelation of what Tom did in his **past** in a situation with Judy B_____ and Wendy M_____."
This was revealed to Parish Council (who was investigating all 1989 claims) in 1989 to discredit Tom/others accused me of raping 3 other girls while I was Youth Director and even came to my house in 1989 to tell me to step down as Youth Director.
These same girls ended up coming to my defense. Case was dropped. Tom was lying and cause some real problems with his outright lies in 1989 and now again 2007 at a meeting held by the Bishops lawyers on behalf of my in-laws on December 2007.
Tom: He started his public remarks in 2007.
Let he who is without sin cast the first stone.
I Quote From Tom E-Mail: "if the victim’s stories aren’t told, the secret continues.
**Secrets are unhealthy.**
So my daughter and the other students who were all victim's, revealed a secret. (a two year cover up) in which a teacher was convicted.
My daughter's aunts and family respond with, a website about Noelle's dad. "thetruthaboutremi??????? These same people put up this website, then threatened with a law suit against Noelle and me?
Remember this, the Canonical adviors Father S from the Catholic School, called all the girls who came forward, "exaggerators" at a public meeting. This was "degrading" the girls and my in-laws (the ones who put up the website) are no different. My daughter said it well when I informed her of what Fr. S had said "Dad was Mr. Butler's arrest exaggerated"?
I want all of you who are reading this website to understand,that 95% of this website data was submitted to my in-laws attorney. (Mr. Jay in April 2008) I gave my in-laws the privilege of reading my rebuttal and offered them the opportunity to dispute. They only request out of 100 sheets of documentation, was a request from my in-laws for a copy of the police report from 1989. I willingly gave my in-laws this document.
I will not go into details like my in-laws website did about there version on my past life:
But I will again state what Tom's friend stated to me AGAIN!
Quote From Tom Best Friend______ ON -Sept 12, 2007 at 9:50 AM:
"Tom has no room to talk about anyone's past especially with.................................."
"He knows what happen to Judy B___ and Wendy M___ because I was there both times and ................................."
The above Quote has more in detail of what happened and I will not at this point go into details.
I strongly suggest Tom keep his recommendations that he told my family (e-mail) about what I should do with my life. He should take is own advice.
Chapter 281 The vengeful will suffer the LORD'S vengeance, for he remembers their sins in detail. 2 Forgive your neighbor's injustice; then when you pray, your own sins will be forgiven. 3 Should a man nourish anger against his fellows and expect healing from the LORD? 4 Should a man refuse mercy to his fellows, yet seek pardon for his own sins? 5 If he who is but flesh cherishes wrath, who will forgive his sins?
Eva e-mail was found by my daughter N G a victim of St. D's school.
She(Noelle) read my response that I was preparing and read something she did not know. Mr. Butler her teacher who was arrested was following her mother, came to our house, following her teacher, and approached the other victim at Wall-Mart, stalking all of us till I then had the FBI and probation officer do an investigation. I was going to take this matter into my own hands, when John Humphrey (FBI) told me not to retaliate against Mr. Butler.
NG has lived in fear to this day.
OTHER SUPPORTING DOCUMENTS:
9/18/2007 2:37:26 A.M. Eastern Standard Time
I have received your e-mail and I was writing back to you. I just finished it when my daughter N G went into my computer ran across it and read it (I was going to have Barbara read and delete or edit my letter before I sent it to you). N G was very upset and last night came downstairs crying, shaken and sacred. She said her whole body was frozen and could not move. This was how I found out she read the letter and we had to discuss this letter with her, it was very difficult but we managed to explain it to her.
My response to your letter had info in it that she had no idea. As example, Mr. Butler the teacher, who I put in jail had been stalking my family, following Barbara and the other victims for over a year we kept this from N G so she would not flip out, but now she knows and we're dealing with this. I might send you the unedited one so you can read what Noelle read.
One thing I want to address now, is your translation or the scripture verse you send me:
As for your Scripture quote: John 20: V 23. If you forgive people's sins, they are forgiven, if you do not forgive them, they are not forgiven.)
Below is the Church's Verse:
(Jesus) said to them again, "Peace be with you. As the Father has sent me, so I send you."
And when he had said this, he breathed on them and said to them, "Receive the holy Spirit.
Whose sins you forgive are forgiven them, and whose sins you retain are retained."
- The Council of Trent defined that the power to forgive sins given here is the same power
exercised in the Sacrament of Penance. This was given to the first Priest, we call it Reconciliation/Penance, the priest have the Power to forgive or retain, not men. You or anyone has no right or power to retain anyone's sin. Once you're given absolution the sin is no more, past or present. Jesus 120 strips across his back and body gives him the power to forgive sin's or retain. When I when to confession the Priest absolution to me was not 10 Hail Mary's and 10 Our Father's, but to obey my calling from the Lord to help all teens and to give ear to the elderly. I have faithfully fulfill this for 25 years. I will never forget what the priest from Italy told me in the Confession box, your attacks will not be from men but from Satan himself. Those were words have never left me. I will send you my response soon.
THE SACRAMENT OF PENANCE AND RECONCILIATION
Only God forgives sin
Only God forgives sins. Since he is the Son of God, Jesus says of himself, "The Son of man has authority on earth to forgive sins" and exercises this divine power: "Your sins are forgiven
Holy Communion separates us from sin. The body of Christ we receive in Holy Communion is "given up for us," and the blood we drink "shed for the many for the forgiveness of sins." For this reason the Eucharist cannot unite us to Christ without at the same time cleansing us from past sins and preserving us from future sins:
For as often as we eat this bread and drink the cup, we proclaim the death of the Lord. If we proclaim the Lord's death, we proclaim the forgiveness of sins. If, as often as his blood is poured out, it is poured for the forgiveness of sins, I should always receive it, so that it may always forgive my sins. Because I always sin, I should always have a remedy.
November 20, 2008
Last Thoughts Conclusion:
I just got done reviewing my website and I want to add some last thoughts:
On November 19, 2008, one of Paul Barr best friend D. told me that, Tom M and Paul were a 100% convinced that I had sex with then 15 year old C Clark and he remembers when Paul accused me of raping his wife. His best friend D. then said that he remembers that Paul's wife denied this rape.
Paul Barr also ran into C. Clark while attending a call from C. Clark for her Father. He brought up my name to her and said...................She call me Remi Gonzalez and told me.
D. also said, Paul Barr was discussing a case with him about my son's car accident.
Cindy D T called me (1990) and told me Paul Barr had made contact with her in 1989. Paul Barr tried to have her go to the police dept and file a rape charge against me.
Paul Barr told Cindy to put the date of the rape as 1985. This of course would have put the rape in the criminal statue of limitations.
Paul Barr also told my son’s best friend, that he wanted nothing to do with my in-laws Website or with the Maroons pertaining to the website. Paul Barr spoke with the attorney from the Diocese of Buffalo, Larry Vilardo, who at the December 2007 meeting, mentioned to me all that Paul Barr had said. We disproved Paul Barr with my Attorney John Licata and Chris M's statements. Paul knows what happen and he was no saint..............(D) (R)
I never did any thing to Paul Barr and he knows it. When I defended Paul against Father Freemen in the early 1980's. I challenged the Diocese of Buffalo about why they covered for Father Freemen and moved him from Sacred H.Church to St. Chris..., Mary C., who was handling the case for Bishop Head made my life miserable and it didn't work. I defended Paul Barr for almost 3 years.
The secretary of the company I’m a consultant for, said to me that her sisters read my story concerning St. D, in the New York Times. She said, that three of her sisters were raped by a priest. She told me , that her sisters wanted to tell me to never give up, ever.
I received many calls from people who expressed their concerns after they had read the article in the New York Times.
One was from a retiree counselor who counsels the priests who abuse people. These priests were transferred to other parishes so that the Dioceses could cover up for them. She said she would testify for me.
I only put my website up for one reason and one reason only. Once negotiations failed I had to put a response up so that my kids could refer their friends to the website to see what was really going on. I didn’t want my kids having to face the pressing questions of people that would approach them in regards to this matter. Truthfully this hasn't happened as much as we thought it would.
When we met with Mr. Jay, the attorney for Sarah and my in laws, Mr. Jay said to me since this is the fourth time they did this to you why do you want the site removed. I told him what it did to my children who love these people. I never once tried to keep them from family reunions, birthday parties, etc.
G G loved Aunt Eva and I remember saying to him that you don’t really know her. Yet, still his response was that he liked her. R Gloved Aunt Rita she was like an icon to her. My oldest son loved them all. Noelle for some reason liked Aunt Nancy and Aunt Eva. Raf loved his grandmother and going to the parties to be with his cousins. I myself never went to any of them but I never stopped my family from going.
Yet when Nancys' mother one night went missing at the casino we went to look for her. Nancy even came to my house and I met her daughter for the first time a couple of years ago. What change? My daughter who was a victim of a Catholic School cover up???
This website of my in laws has brought my outside family members and even some of my enemies closer. I was no Saint in the 1970’s but my in laws past was nothing to be proud of either.
Reconciliation My Daughter N G story 1991:
After the 1989 ordeal My wife family was divided, and everyone hated me, Remi Gonzalez.
My baby girl, our fourth child... on the day of her birth the doctors informed us right before we took her home that they had discovered her arteries to her heart were plugged. Black and blue marks had formed in the shoulder area. We had to rush her to Children's Hospital in Buffalo, New York.
I asked the Doctor, "Are you saying she could have a heart attack?" He said we must get her to Children's Hospital. I was so upset that I took my wife home so she could get changed and grab some clothes to stay overnight. I went to my office and started to pray. At that time I was having family in-law problems. I told the Lord that I would try to be more loving and would invite everyone to Noelle’s baptism.
The Lord then consoled me and I felt His peace. I asked the Lord that when I arrive at home and enter into my house to please have my wife tell me we could go pickup my NG and bring her home. I pulled up my driveway and opened the door to my house. I heard screaming and crying and I said, no Lord, you took my daughter. My wife came running up to the door and said the hospital called and we can go pickup N G and bring her home now... everything had vanished.
We were told later that week after a final check up that there was a hole in N G heart.
We just got back from the Shrine of the Myrths where Kateri T ( 1680) , is being considered to be canonized. I was praying for N G and found a rock that was shaped into a heart with a chip on it. The day before we were to bring N G to Children’s Hospital for her heart problem, I was at mass praying for her, when suddenly I felt power over my whole body like I never felt before.
In a vision I saw a sword from Michael the Archangel pierce the heart of N G. My sister-in-law, Rita had placed her hand on my shoulder (in church) and that’s when the power came into me, she was praying for me. At that moment I knew that NG was healed. When I came home and placed the rock I found on Noelle’s heart and began to pray. The next day the student doctors told the doctors that they did not hear the hole sound.
End result, N G hole from her heart had vanished.
I then invited all of my wife family to the baptism. Only 4 showed up. It was the beginning.
My calls to help people have not stopped. Even Judy one of the most respected persons in the Diocese of Buffalo and one of Bishop Kmiec’s advisors, just called me a couple of months ago to help her daughter and granddaughter in which I did. She has access to the best counselors, advisors, etc. and still decided to call me even with the knowledge of my dilemma.
The Volleyball league continued this year with the most teams ever. Twelve teams entered and the city gave us the volleyball courts that I had built in the 1980’s. My counseling goes on , court case's and public speaking, I serve the Lord, not man. I had the honor to meet Pope John Paul II, Pope Benedict XVI, Cardinal O'Connor and Mother Teresa. A letter that we received from Mother Teresa that I cherished, told us to serve God’s laws not man. I, Remi Gonzalez have change my life since 1982 but my in-laws believe that I'm the same Remi Gonzalez from the 70's. This website they have, has not produce one teen since my conversion in1982 (27 years ago) not one, nor will it EVER!
Mother Teresa's Anyway Poem
People are often unreasonable, illogical and self centered; Forgive them anyway.
If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives; Be kind anyway.
If you are successful, you will win some false friends and some true enemies; Succeed anyway.
If you are honest and frank, people may cheat you; Be honest and frank anyway.
What you spend years building, someone could destroy overnight; Build anyway.
If you find serenity and happiness, they may be jealous; Be happy anyway.
The good you do today, people will often forget tomorrow; Do good anyway.
Give the world the best you have, and it may never be enough; Give the world the best you've got anyway.
You see, in the final analysis, it is between you and your God;
It was never between you and them anyway.
The Diocese of Buffalo has a few people who never liked me. Especially now that we just preserved four churches from being destroyed by receiving Historic Preservation.
Lebanon Church was to be sold for 1.2 million .The people who were trying to save their church and begged me to help them save their church as we save Sacred Heart and Holy Trinity. I agree and the Diocese did everything in there power, including a closed meetingto prevent this. I told the people that I will do ever thing in my power to stop the Diocese of Buffalo and we will prevail. We did.
The reason I am telling this story is because one of many things that must be revealed to the Historic Preservation is the heresay story of something good. As an example I used the hearsay story that the Parishioners of Sacred Heart were helping the slaves cross the lower bridge from Niagara Falls into Canada in the 1850’s.
During my speech to the Historic Preservation Committee for Our Lady of Lebanon I told them a true story of a person, who’s great grandmother was one of the finding fathers that risked her life to save someone’s life and house.
A fire had broken out in this house and my wife Barbara, was called on the phone from a screaming child. My wife ran across the street and entered into the kitchen where there was a oil-stove fire. My wife could not see due to the smoke/fire and grabbed the screaming girl out the door.
She then picked up the pan of oil that was on fire and ran out the back door throwing the pan onto the ground. This saved her nieces and the house that her sister just purchased. The fire department arrived and told Barbara that was a very brave and dangerous thing she did.
For those of you who are reading this website the person’s life my wife saved was Sarah Webster, the one who wrote and put the website up thetruthaboutremi.com.
Email her and ask her if this is true. In the 1989 civil lawsuit and ordeal, Sarah Webster publicly states that B G would watch me Remi rape Sarah and abuse her this devastated my wife.
Power of Forgiveness: I am going to end this with something that happened this summer.
First lets start with what really started all this. It was my past with my in-laws and Sarah Webster that has been revealed publicly in 1989, 1994, 2003.
My wife received a phone call from her sister Eva on August 25, 2007 the day I was on TV, New York Times etc. Eva stated that the family was upset because Remi Gonzalez was insensitive to them. Even though I 've been on TV, National TV and in every newspaper you can think of for the last 26 years. That Remi shouldn’t have sued the Church and that I was doing this strictly for money.
Eva also stated that she will call the Diocese of Buffalo herself and told my wife that they will file a lawsuit against Remi Gonzalez and my daughter N G, who when to St. D Catholic School. Eva stated that this family would make sure my daughter will never see any money.
This family said this with no regard or idea of what my daughter and the rest of this school went through for 2 years. Remember they were 11 years old when all this started. Do they even know what happened? NO.
After our lawsuit the public will have all the details including the rape attempt in the cafeteria by the teacher who is in jail as I speak, the porn, violence and the cover up.
After my in-laws website was posted I had to tell my daughters about it and told them to read it. My two sons already knew about the accusations because I told them about the 1989, 1995, and 2003 ordeals. But I told them to read it too. I have never seen so much pain, confusion and hate come out of my children especially from N G and Raq.
I had to teach them they must forgive them because this is not the way to resolve issues. My in-laws and Sarah believed that this website was going to produce hundreds of victims. After all I was a youth director for nearly 26 years. My kids must forgive them because the Lord said this “ Vantages is mine the Lord”.
The nature of my daughter N G was great; she was indeed the one that all the kids at Saint D school went to about Mr. Butler.
- She was the one who called the meetings with the teachers to tell them what the teacher, was doing to the kids.
- She was the one who was punched and hit three times in one day and nothing was done.
- She was the one who told the Spanish teacher Mrs. Abbott. After the entire class told Mrs. Abbott what Mr. Butler had done to N G in class.
- She was the one who told Mrs. W. so that the Principal would do something.
- She was the one who got the kids to stay together as a group for 2 years.
- She was the one who told the administration that Mr. BUTLER is a and I quote “perv”.
Did any of my in-laws to this day call her and tell her how brave she was and how sorry they were that she had to live this way for two years at St. D. No, instead they threatened to file a lawsuit against her and putting up a website about me. Real smart!
This explains the two awards my daughter's N G received:
Congressional Young Leadership 2007
National Youth Leadership Forum on Medicine 2008
Despite everything going on Eva invited N G to dinner when she came into town this summer and she accepted. My whole family then went hay wire. I told them that this is N G decision and she is setting a good example to us" ignorant adults" about the power of forgiveness.
N G said to me “Dad we all have something in the past that we don’t like. This is my family and I will associate with them and forgive them.” I told N G I was very proud of her.
I going to make this clear. This family can do, say, and speak all they want about me. However they crossed the line when they involved my children and this I will not tolerate.
I will open the door of reconciliation again and will be willing to meet my in-laws and Sarah Webster.
To all of my friends and family and for that matter my enemies, I am at peace with all of this my Lord is my strength and healer. In April of this year I drove to New York City hoping that I would get to see Pope Benedict XVI.
I brought with me the St. D School documents, a copy of the Historic Land Mark application, all the data of the work I had done since 1982, the Image of the Virgin de Guadalupe one of only three in United States, the letter I have from Mother Teresa and the pain the website has caused my children. I was blessed to be 12 feet from the Holy Father and I lifted all that I brought with me and he stared into my eyes and blessed me.
REMEMBER WHAT I SAID EARLIER ON MY WEBSITE: THEY WANTED A DEAL:
This is why Bishop Kmiec had his lawyer Larry Vilardo, Esq. contact my lawyers (December 2007) , from HoganWillig to table both issues St. D case and my in laws website. It’s call “Deal or No Deal”. I will not make deals for the sake of my daughter and that’s final.
VERY IMPORTANT: In August, 2006 before my - in laws website, NY Times Story (2007) a employee of the Diocese of Buffalo, Dec Ben M and his wife inform me that the Diocese of Buffalo where trying to figure a way to "get rid of me".
I was fired on August 30, 2007 by Father Dave, in the letter he send me, because I reveal the scandal of my daughter's caholic school. Not because of my in-laws website it wasn't up till Oct 2007. Also in our phone conversation Father Dave said: Remi you should of defended the church, I told him I did the students at the school are the "CHURCH".
Finally, I cannot even begin to say how many people I run into at restaurants, weddings, wakes, class reunions and even this November 2008 at my nephew Ed W club." Remi I remember this, and that and when we or you this that, sometimes I don't even know there faces let alone their names".
I have no problems talking about my past life from the 1970's (30 years ago), never did, but to put up a website. But if you do, it better be 100% accurate.
Finally I was reading my daughter's N G poems or letters and I noticed a quote she had on it, how true:
“ Nobody can go back and start a new beginning
, But anybody can start today and make a new ending. ”
My in-laws and Sarah Webster need to bring all their feelings and hate at the foot of the cross, because the only one who is going to heal them is the Lord, Jesus Christ.
My wife of 41 years Pray for my soul from
1974-1982 Everynight. In Sept 1982 I was touch By
My Lord Jesus Christ. Praise be The Lord..... Remi Gonzalez Virgen de Guadalupe Picture Taken
By My Nephew Eladio in Mexico .She Never
Left Me Alone.